Why do today's soppy men act like toddlers who need to be mollycoddled?
THIS is what I mean by men turning into babies when in a relationship. Although this writer generalises it to men of this modern generation rather than just men who are in relationships. But it's the way I've felt about some of my past partners...most notably BP. Aimless. Unmotivated. Clinging on to the women in their lives like security blankets rather than being men. The problem? They want to be treated like men. Waited on. Served. Respected. Feared, even. Given the place of highest honour in the family and woman's heart and mind. But they use their women as crutches and excuses for their failures, and run to them to be babied and propped up. If the woman doesn't provide enough energy and motivation for them, they turn elsewhere for comfort. Not necessarily towards other women, but other things. Expensive toys. Substance abuse. Anything to keep from growing up.
Some passages from the article that particularly resonated with me...
"It’s not just young bucks. Men who would once have been called middle-aged are behaving like teenagers, faces nourished by some male consumer-targeted unction (because he’s worth it), huddled over their Nintendo Wii or iPhone, desperate to ignore the spectre of maturity tapping on their shoulder.
And even those whom some might regard as verging on camp — Monty Clift, James Dean, Dirk Bogarde — were butcher than many of today’s heterosexual men, despite being comfortable with expressing their emotions. Dean’s ‘You’re tearing me apart!’ was the howl of a wolf, not the bleat of a lamb.
With the exception of Colin Firth, who fills the Peck/Stewart gap, and Cary Grant’s successor, that old-school playboy George Clooney, today’s big-screen role models are all eternal ‘frat boys’.
Think of American actors Owen Wilson and Ashton Kuchter.
Ashton’s currently making headlines for allegedly cheating on his wife Demi Moore, a woman 15 years his senior. But the whole affair is being treated as if he’s a naughty schoolboy who’s disappointed his proud mum — not a man who’s betrayed his woman.
No one’s saying everyone should conform to a gender stereotype, or that men should be ‘dissing’ their women like some caricature of male aggression.
But neither should masculinity be regarded as a dirty word.
Isn’t it time to man up, boys?"
And even those whom some might regard as verging on camp — Monty Clift, James Dean, Dirk Bogarde — were butcher than many of today’s heterosexual men, despite being comfortable with expressing their emotions. Dean’s ‘You’re tearing me apart!’ was the howl of a wolf, not the bleat of a lamb.
With the exception of Colin Firth, who fills the Peck/Stewart gap, and Cary Grant’s successor, that old-school playboy George Clooney, today’s big-screen role models are all eternal ‘frat boys’.
Think of American actors Owen Wilson and Ashton Kuchter.
Ashton’s currently making headlines for allegedly cheating on his wife Demi Moore, a woman 15 years his senior. But the whole affair is being treated as if he’s a naughty schoolboy who’s disappointed his proud mum — not a man who’s betrayed his woman.
No one’s saying everyone should conform to a gender stereotype, or that men should be ‘dissing’ their women like some caricature of male aggression.
But neither should masculinity be regarded as a dirty word.
Isn’t it time to man up, boys?"
Dunkirk's forgotten heroes: It’s a tale of extreme bravery, terrible tragedy and the cruellest twist of fate... now a new TV show finally brings it to light
It's astonishing just how much we still don't know about the wars that tore humanity apart. And so much will never be known because those who suffered it refuse to give voice to the images in their heads and nightmares of their sleep.
Made of the white stuff: How stars are lapping up dresses in fabric spun from MILK
No...MILK is not an acronym. They have actually found a way to use milk protein from cow's milk to spin into fibres and turn into clothes. Not just using the protein as an additive. Granted that right now it's bloddy expensive (200euros for a dress and using 6litres of milk), but this is just fascinating.
Kelsey Grammer has a new show called "Boss" debuting soon.
From the promo trailer, it sounds like it's gonna be interesting. Time to stalk eztv to see if it makes it onto the list of TV shows there.
'We're happily semidetached': The rise of the part-time relationship
I am going to skip marriage and hop on to this. Only...I can't do it in SG. Hmmmm....
How To Lose Weight Without Dieting
1. USE A SMALLER PLATE
2. USE A BIGGER FORK
3. EAT WITH MEN (how about men? who should they eat with??)
4. READ THE LABELS
5. DRINK WATER BEFORE MEALS
6. AVOID LIGHT AT NIGHT
7. HIDE UNHEALTHY TREATS
8. BE CAREFUL AROUND FRIENDS
9. BEWARE OF SKINNY FRIENDS WHO EAT A LOT
10. AVOID ADVERTISEMENTS FOR EXERCISE (yes!!!)
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